What I Most Need in This Moment Is…

by Dr. Melissa Healy – Health & Wellness Coach

Several years ago, I referenced the question, “What do I most need in this moment?” in my blog titled ‘The First Best Step in Improving Your Emotional and Mental Fitness’. In the midst of the current crisis, I find it more important than ever to revisit this simple self-care practice.  It can and will have immediate and profound effect on your mental and emotional well-being.   

In a moment of overwhelm, uncertainty or confusion, asking yourself what you most need in the moment acts as a pause button to your internal dialogue. Interrupting this dialogue allows your intuition, your inner guide, to be heard and more importantly, acted upon.

Jessica, a full-time single mom, is struggling with a lack of co-operation within her team. A hiring freeze at her company has resulted in staff being asked to carry an increase in workload, without an increase in pay. Collective loss in morale, miscommunication and mistakes in documentation now have Jessica logging into her work computer over the weekends to meet Monday morning deadlines.  

In a moment of extreme frustration last weekend, she asked herself, “What do I most need in this moment?” Her intuition was telling her to log off her computer, take her dog for a walk.  However, feeling the pull of the Monday deadline, she ignored her intuition and kept working. In hindsight, she realized by ignoring the response to this question, she had an unproductive and anxiety filled afternoon, even after completing the task.

This week she has been checking in at least once daily, asking herself, “What do I most need in this moment?” and acting on it accordingly.  Somedays it is simply taking a moment to read a chapter of a new book she has started, other days she drives to pick up her favorite local coffee, drinking it while walking around the neighborhood.

As a result, she is finishing her week off on a more energetic note. In an unexpected turn of events, she shared this story with her team on a virtual call this week, and without having to plead for cooperation, has the commitment of the entire team to get all documentation to her by end of day Friday.

Jessica’s story is not uncommon. According to author Laura Doyle, the most effective self-care is to not to focus on what you “feel you should be doing”, but on things that “delight you”.  Asking, “What do I most need in this moment?” is a just one way to initiate self-care into your daily routine.

As a go-to self-care tool, this can be effective even under the best of circumstances and, is particularly critical now. As you get more comfortable using this  simple self-care strategy, you will find it will have far reaching positive impact when shared with others. What DO you most need in THIS moment?

Coaching Partnerships Add Accountability

by Phil Bohlender – Business Leadership Coach

Currently, the coaching industry is one of the fastest growing industries in the world. Demand for coaching is at an all time high with some of the most sought after coaching practices including leadership, executive, career, writing, speaking, life, health, wellness, and fitness. No matter the practice, more and more people are realizing the benefits and value of collaborating with a skillful coach.
There are seven advantages of working with a coach that might very well dispel the best arguments against investing in a coaching partnership. The sports world gives us a reliable and proven model for coaching that brings about successful outcomes.

1. Support
Most people benefit greatly from having support from a coach. The coach might
encourage them in ways that others may not be capable of doing.

2. Reflection
The process of reflecting ensures that the lessons learned are reinforced and retained.
Coaches can share with their clients how to reflect and show them how simple it can be
done anywhere in just a short time frame.

3. Feedback
When people are open to taking on feedback about their performance, behaviors or
actions; they are set up for seeing things in a more multi-dimensional way. When people
own the feedback that is given to them, there is no stopping them in getting better at
whatever they are focused on achieving.

4. Accountability
Currently there is a big movement underway for people to have an accountability
partner. This partnership creates a bond between people who want to succeed at
something and aren’t confident that they can do it on their own. While this might work
for some, the lack of investment will eventually erode the partnership leaving both
people without the results that they worked for in the first place. The coaching
investment promotes ownership at a different level.

5. Growth
People with the goal of growth are more likely to achieve it with a coaching partnership.
The coach will enable their client to find their own solutions and answers, which will
create the inside out growth that is sustainable. Growth is almost always a goal when
working with a coach.

6. Development
Most all of the coaching practices are focused on developing some aspect of the client’s
life or career. The value of working with a coach on development is that they are able to
track progress and improvements. The things people might miss are brought to their
attention by a supportive coach.

7. Focus
People are distracted on a daily basis from some of the most important parts of their lives,
in some cases they even lose touch with themselves and what makes them feel valued and
important. The work of the coach in supporting the client requires them to be focused and
attentive in order to support growth and development.
Many people can achieve a great deal on their own and they are to be celebrated for their
successes. There are other people who would benefit from partnering with a coach and
these seven advantages might help them see both the value and return on their
expectations and investment when deciding to invest in a coaching partnership.