What I Most Need in This Moment Is…

by Dr. Melissa Healy – Health & Wellness Coach

Several years ago, I referenced the question, “What do I most need in this moment?” in my blog titled ‘The First Best Step in Improving Your Emotional and Mental Fitness’. In the midst of the current crisis, I find it more important than ever to revisit this simple self-care practice.  It can and will have immediate and profound effect on your mental and emotional well-being.   

In a moment of overwhelm, uncertainty or confusion, asking yourself what you most need in the moment acts as a pause button to your internal dialogue. Interrupting this dialogue allows your intuition, your inner guide, to be heard and more importantly, acted upon.

Jessica, a full-time single mom, is struggling with a lack of co-operation within her team. A hiring freeze at her company has resulted in staff being asked to carry an increase in workload, without an increase in pay. Collective loss in morale, miscommunication and mistakes in documentation now have Jessica logging into her work computer over the weekends to meet Monday morning deadlines.  

In a moment of extreme frustration last weekend, she asked herself, “What do I most need in this moment?” Her intuition was telling her to log off her computer, take her dog for a walk.  However, feeling the pull of the Monday deadline, she ignored her intuition and kept working. In hindsight, she realized by ignoring the response to this question, she had an unproductive and anxiety filled afternoon, even after completing the task.

This week she has been checking in at least once daily, asking herself, “What do I most need in this moment?” and acting on it accordingly.  Somedays it is simply taking a moment to read a chapter of a new book she has started, other days she drives to pick up her favorite local coffee, drinking it while walking around the neighborhood.

As a result, she is finishing her week off on a more energetic note. In an unexpected turn of events, she shared this story with her team on a virtual call this week, and without having to plead for cooperation, has the commitment of the entire team to get all documentation to her by end of day Friday.

Jessica’s story is not uncommon. According to author Laura Doyle, the most effective self-care is to not to focus on what you “feel you should be doing”, but on things that “delight you”.  Asking, “What do I most need in this moment?” is a just one way to initiate self-care into your daily routine.

As a go-to self-care tool, this can be effective even under the best of circumstances and, is particularly critical now. As you get more comfortable using this  simple self-care strategy, you will find it will have far reaching positive impact when shared with others. What DO you most need in THIS moment?

When Circumstances Change… Adjust

Our Story during COVID-19…

We had the official launch for our platform in January 2020 and were ready to go full steam ahead. We were working on putting the pieces together in the background to offer the services to our clients. Open for business and ready to serve.

Shortly after the launch, everything came to a screeching halt as the country was shut down due to COVID.

Realizing people are either out of work or lost income from their business, we understood that now is not the time to fully launch and solicit clients. We shifted gears and created the FB group ‘Move Past the Fear’ which quickly grew, and we now have almost 2,000 members. We also started the FB group ‘Move Past the Fear… BUSINESS’ so our fellow entrepreneurs and business owners have an outlet and support as well.

When the country was being divided due to unnecessary police violence, we started our third FB group ‘Move Past the Hate’.

In times like these it is more important than ever to put humans first and money second. We are here to serve and help people be more and better than their circumstances. We know the money will come but assisting those who need to see there is still so much good around us and providing a safe space to forget about the worries for a little bit is so much more important to us.

All our coaches serve to assist others thrive in any area of life, business, and everything in between. We always put people first. Many offer free webinars, tips and tricks to cope with the new reality. We conducted free live webinars where people can have their questions answered, and all participate in our groups to give inspiration as well as offer advice.

When we all work together on a common goal, we are so much stronger and accomplish so much more than any of us could alone. There is strength in numbers and seeing how much good is coming out of all that is happening is truly awe-inspiring. In spite of it all, there is more positive than negative. More good ‘apples’ than bad.

This whole situation has shown us that now more than ever, coaches and mentors who lead by example are needed to show that we can overcome.

This ‘downtime’ has allowed us to find better ways to serve, put procedures in place, add more pieces to the puzzle, and bring us together as humans as we have time for ourselves to reflect. We have the opportunity to re-evaluate, be innovative, and find ways not just as a company but as people to grow and rise above it all.