Yup, it is that time of the year again. You guessed it… It’s the time where we all look back on the past 12 months. We might have some regrets, some joys, some good intentions, and whatever else we can think of.
We ask ourselves why we did what we did. What we wish we would have done instead or differently. Things we wish we could take back and erase completely. We also look at some of the things we did and experienced and they just put a smile on our face. We may have lost some close to us and mourn their absence. We may have lost some we thought were friends. We may even have lost ourselves chasing whatever it is we were chasing.
However, there were also a lot of great things that happened this year! Strange how those seem to come back harder into our memory than those negative things…
What was the best thing that happened for you this year? Did you have that business breakthrough you have been working towards? Did you meet some new and amazing people? Have you found that special person? Did you take the trip you have been putting on hold for various reasons? Have you connected with yourself?
For me, this year has been very interesting. In a great way! Does that mean everything went the way I wanted and envisioned? OH HELL NO! There were some curveballs, some punches in the gut that knocked the winds out of me, but most of all…. A lot of reflections and going deep within!
Through it all, I found myself. I peeled back the layers of BS and limiting beliefs that I have piled on over a lifetime. Still peeling in case you were wondering. This year, I learned to honor myself and set boundaries. It is interesting what happens when you do that for yourself! It is so freeing and liberating!!!
Enforcing my boundaries to honor myself, was tough at first. All the old thinking patterns showed up and worked hard to stop me. They are still creeping up, but I call them out and redirect them quickly. Best of all, I don’t stay in that negative energy any longer. It does not serve me!
When we set boundaries, where there were none, we lose some people. Trust me, yes, it is tough at first BUT it’s totally alright! They were not your people!!! Them leaving makes room for better folks, circumstances, and opportunities! It always boggles my mind when I see it happening, not only in my own life but with my clients as well. It is so beautiful.
As you reflect on this past year, take a close and honest look at what you have allowed into your life and what you are holding onto. Reflect on how it makes you feel. If the feeling is good and positive, great! Keep it. If it makes you feel drained, unhappy, sad, or negative in any way, let it go. Thank it for the lessons it taught you. Give it a ‘good-bye’ hug and release it with love and gratitude. It helped you grow!
No matter if it is people, opportunities, or whatever. If it drains you and does not add value to you and your life, goals, or well-being, let it go. Yes, I know, some things you feel obligated to keep. I get it. Simply limit the time and energy you allocate to it. Keep it to a bare minimum. You are not here to please everybody around you. Which that is impossible anyway. You are here to live your best life, learn, grow, and have fun.
Honoring yourself and what is best for you is the best gift you can give to yourself for the new year.
I have learned to ask: Does this add value for me in any way? Does this help me achieve what I want to achieve? Is this in my best interest? What is the lesson I need to learn through this? How can this help me become a better version of myself?
Some of you reading this might say and/or think: Oh WOW, that is selfish! Well, it is if you harm others along the way or use them for your own benefit. However, it is necessary to become a better version of yourself and living your best life!
You are worthy and deserving of the very best life has to offer!
What do you need to let go of so something better can move in?
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